Anything Direct

Start by stating exactly what you did without using the word "if."

Since your request is wide open, I’ve put together a guide for one of the most useful (and often botched) life skills: Anything

Show them you actually understand why they are upset. This is the "empathy" phase. Start by stating exactly what you did without

"I am sorry that I spoke to you disrespectfully." (This owns your behavior). 2. Skip the "But" Anything

An apology without a change in behavior is just manipulation. Offer a way to make it right or a plan to prevent it from happening again.

"I’m sorry if you felt bad about what I said." (This blames their reaction).